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Re: “A woman wonders what changing her name will do to her identity

I love the line, "although Tony's initial suggestion was charming, I don't expect him to actually do it." I mean doesn't that kind of hit the nail on the head?

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Posted by ashnash on 11/21/2014 at 7:05 PM

Re: “A woman wonders what changing her name will do to her identity

I reluctantly changed my name when I got married. I was so sad to lose the name of my father, the parent with whom I had most connected, and he had only passed away a few months before the wedding. My last name was part of who I was, heck even my finance called me by it...the problem was that he also wanted me to change it. I tried to say that I would keep it legally but socially I could be Mrs. X, still a no. Four years later when I got divorced, without children, I had to go the trouble of changing it back. Now anytime I take out a large loan, say buy a house, I have various alias to which I must attest are in fact me. Lots of people get divorced and go through the same issue, but since I didn't want to change it to begin with, I believe that makes it sting a bit worse.
Everyone has to do what they feel comfortable doing, I never thought I would get divorced so that wasn't my concern, it was like you have stated above, fear of loss of self. Great article.

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Posted by Lastname on 11/21/2014 at 2:11 PM

Re: “A woman wonders what changing her name will do to her identity

Here's another thought. What do you do in the event of divorce? I faced that this year and decided to keep the married name. For the kid. It was really important to my child that we have connection with the last name. I pooled some of my divorced friends and that seemed to be the case with them as well.

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Posted by Vickster on 11/21/2014 at 1:27 PM

Re: “A woman wonders what changing her name will do to her identity

Great article. Thoughtful and candid!

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Posted by Chagmion Antoine on 11/21/2014 at 7:46 AM

Re: “A childhood spent at a neighborhood bar isn't for everyone, but it worked just fine for me

My memories of Bud's include playing pool with my hands, having to stand on my tippy toes to see the table. And your Dad picking me up so I could write my name on the board by the bar.

Posted by Rod on 11/20/2014 at 10:06 AM

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