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Re: “In the midst of caregiving, a chance encounter with health can be overpowering

This was really unexpectedly touching. Thank you so much for sharing this story.

Posted by Cam on 12/17/2014 at 4:11 PM
Posted by joe on 12/09/2014 at 12:14 AM

Re: “I love the fat-positive movement, but I hate that it applies to me

I can relate. But instead of trying to change everything at once, I've been taking baby steps. Obviously, going from 18 to 8 takes time. (If you want it to stay) and that's the hardest thing for me to accept. But that doesn't mean while I work at it I can't wear my fav non clingy t-shirt and have bangin' makeup and hair. I feel like even though I don't feel like I can wear the latest style of clothes I can still be on point with my accessories, hair and makeup. Just my thoughts.

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Posted by Hcj15 on 12/04/2014 at 11:14 PM

Re: “I love the fat-positive movement, but I hate that it applies to me

I can relate to just about everything you've said in this article. Our body hate is symptomatic of our culture that tells us we can be perfect if we only worked at it.

Well, I've worked at it quite a lot in these last few years and guess what? My favorite pair of jeans are size 8s that have holes worn where my thighs meet! Sometimes I wonder if I was happier when I wasn't so worried about calories. In some ways I think I've become more unhealthy in losing 50 lbs. In short: we can't win!

Posted by Wendy French Barrett on 12/04/2014 at 7:46 PM

Re: “I love the fat-positive movement, but I hate that it applies to me

Lyrics from a song in the late 1940s:

"Warm in the winter, shady in the summertime,
That's what I like about that fat gal of mine."

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Posted by yoyo moi on 12/04/2014 at 2:25 PM

Re: “I love the fat-positive movement, but I hate that it applies to me

Is it possible to love yourself and want to improve yourself at the same time? I struggle with that contradiction daily. It may be politically incorrect, but I feel much better when I stop trying to embrace my flaws and start trying to fix them. I wish that I could do both.

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Posted by Carolyn Pippen on 12/04/2014 at 1:32 PM

Re: “I love the fat-positive movement, but I hate that it applies to me

Absolutely awesome article. I hate my fat and I hate myself for not doing anything about it even more. Your article is a perfect reflection of how I feel.

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Posted by Stephanie on 12/04/2014 at 11:06 AM

Re: “I love the fat-positive movement, but I hate that it applies to me

Spot on, Megan. Beautifully said.

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Posted by Kim Green on 12/04/2014 at 8:31 AM

Re: “From UVA to UT and beyond, the response to victims who bravely step forward is downright disgusting

A Facebook friend of mine makes an important point, one that the story should have made: People fail to understand why victims often remain silent for years, then tell their stories much later. Here's what my friend writes: "The question 'Why did they wait so long to tell their story?' underlines the total lack of understanding as to what happens to the psyche of a victim. A very big part of you just shuts down in order to survive."

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Posted by Kim Green on 11/26/2014 at 10:52 AM

Re: “From UVA to UT and beyond, the response to victims who bravely step forward is downright disgusting

Almost never addressed is the fact that virtually all these rape cases involve heavy consumption of alcohol. And the fact that the 21-year old age limit on alcohol consumption encourages binge drinking on campuses. We should return the drinking age to 18 and allow consumption of a substance that does not cause violence: cannabis.

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Posted by Paul Kuhn on 11/26/2014 at 10:42 AM

Re: “A woman wonders what changing her name will do to her identity

I love the line, "although Tony's initial suggestion was charming, I don't expect him to actually do it." I mean doesn't that kind of hit the nail on the head?

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Posted by ashnash on 11/21/2014 at 7:05 PM

Re: “A woman wonders what changing her name will do to her identity

I reluctantly changed my name when I got married. I was so sad to lose the name of my father, the parent with whom I had most connected, and he had only passed away a few months before the wedding. My last name was part of who I was, heck even my finance called me by it...the problem was that he also wanted me to change it. I tried to say that I would keep it legally but socially I could be Mrs. X, still a no. Four years later when I got divorced, without children, I had to go the trouble of changing it back. Now anytime I take out a large loan, say buy a house, I have various alias to which I must attest are in fact me. Lots of people get divorced and go through the same issue, but since I didn't want to change it to begin with, I believe that makes it sting a bit worse.
Everyone has to do what they feel comfortable doing, I never thought I would get divorced so that wasn't my concern, it was like you have stated above, fear of loss of self. Great article.

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Posted by Lastname on 11/21/2014 at 2:11 PM

Re: “A woman wonders what changing her name will do to her identity

Here's another thought. What do you do in the event of divorce? I faced that this year and decided to keep the married name. For the kid. It was really important to my child that we have connection with the last name. I pooled some of my divorced friends and that seemed to be the case with them as well.

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Posted by Vickster on 11/21/2014 at 1:27 PM

Re: “A woman wonders what changing her name will do to her identity

Great article. Thoughtful and candid!

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Posted by Chagmion Antoine on 11/21/2014 at 7:46 AM

Re: “A childhood spent at a neighborhood bar isn't for everyone, but it worked just fine for me

My memories of Bud's include playing pool with my hands, having to stand on my tippy toes to see the table. And your Dad picking me up so I could write my name on the board by the bar.

Posted by Rod on 11/20/2014 at 10:06 AM

Re: “So Tennessee passed Amendment 1. What does that mean?

Ok I don't normally respond to such arguments but as the mother of five daughters(and a woman who once exercised my right to have a abortion) I am appalled for two reasons. One, why are my private medical decisions being discussed or made by anyone but myself and my doctor...what happened to HPPA? And two, it is not mine, nor anyone else's place to decide what is right and wrong for another person. If a fetus cannot live on its own it is not yet a "life" and giving birth to an unwanted baby is child abuse at best.

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Posted by MLV on 11/18/2014 at 10:21 AM

Re: “So Tennessee passed Amendment 1. What does that mean?

one point it would be utopia if every child had a place but you want women to be informed on all the facts what if she has the child one day and isn't a blue eyed blond hair white child how likely will it be adopted? With all the talk about entitlements being cut if she happens to need help will you personally offset it with agreeing to higher taxes. Saving lives is a wonderful thing have you recently inquired if your bone marrow might save a life or you can donate a portion of your liver or kidney without many health risks. Thousands of lives would be saved that way. Your view of pro life is only limited and directed toward women. How can it not be perceived as anything other then war on women?

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Posted by Bridget Rewick on 11/17/2014 at 12:38 PM

Re: “So Tennessee passed Amendment 1. What does that mean?

Let's say I have to have some necessary but non-emergency surgery. Perhaps I've been having issues with my gallbladder and my doctor thinks it needs to come out. He sends me to an out-patient surgery center. I would go there and they would likely tell me exactly what the surgery entailed, all the possible complications and risks, and what to expect in terms of recovery. They would probably do bloodwork, give me pre-op instructions and schedule me a time to come back for the procedure. I would hopefully feel confident in the cleanliness of the surgery center, and the knowledge that it is held to the highest standards of safety and patient care.

Does it seem reasonable to expect these things at a place where you are going to have an invasive surgical procedure?

Now what if the place was NOT clean - and hadn't been inspected in years, because that wasn't required by law? What if I went in, they felt around my stomach and said, "yeah, we'll get rid of that pesky gallbladder for you. Here, put on this gown and hop up on the table and I'll be right back in to take care of it for you"? And what if I got a nasty staph infection because the place wasn't clean? Or the "doctor" wasn't diligent and left a small piece of my diseased gallbladder inside me, which caused sepsis? Or maybe during the surgery my blood pressure dropped to a dangerous level or I began to bleed uncontrollably? And there was no nearby hospital that would accept patients from that particular surgery center?

Now I ask you - should we expect any less from the places performing abortions? Amendment 1 allows for informed consent, a chance to decide for sure that you want to go through with it, and basic standards of cleanliness and care for those who provide it, as well as safeguards for the woman, like admitting privileges at nearby hospitals in case of complications.

Amendment 1 will not ban abortions. But it will give the state the option to enact common-sense requirements of abortion providers. Isn't that what the pro-abortion crowd wants - safe abortions?

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Posted by LSfan1 on 11/16/2014 at 11:47 PM

Re: “So Tennessee passed Amendment 1. What does that mean?

ignoranceisbliss - You DO know that the "great" Margaret Sanger was a eugenicist, don't you? Here are just some of her ideas -

"[We should] apply a stern and rigid policy of sterilization and segregation to that grade of population whose progeny is tainted, or whose inheritance is such that objectionable traits may be transmitted to offspring."

"Give dysgenic groups [people with "bad genes"] in our population their choice of segregation or [compulsory] sterilization."

"Birth control must lead ultimately to a cleaner race."

"Article 1. The purpose of the American Baby Code shall be to provide for a better distribution of babies… and to protect society against the propagation and increase of the unfit.
Article 4. No woman shall have the legal right to bear a child, and no man shall have the right to become a father, without a permit…
Article 6. No permit for parenthood shall be valid for more than one birth."

"We should hire three or four colored ministers, preferably with social-service backgrounds, and with engaging personalities. The most successful educational approach to the Negro is through a religious appeal. We don’t want the word to go out that we want to exterminate the Negro population, and the minister is the man who can straighten out that idea if it ever occurs to any of their more rebellious members."

She also said once that the most humane thing a family could do for its child is to kill it.

Simply put - Sanger wanted to eliminate those races and classes she saw as "undesirable".

Yep, "great", alright...

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Posted by LSfan1 on 11/16/2014 at 11:17 PM

Re: “So Tennessee passed Amendment 1. What does that mean?

@Shannon Wages: About the use of faux names: I know your name, I know where you work, and if the picture you used is you, I know what you look like. That's something to think about.

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Posted by Yo, ho! on 11/16/2014 at 10:33 PM

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